Status Update

Y’all, I have a confession. I equally love and hate social media. I love that I can stay connected with friends and family across the country. I love that I get to see pictures of people who I haven’t seen in forever. I get to feel like I’m in touch with people. And as a self-proclaimed extroverted introvert (it’s a real thing people), this is awesome. Connecting with tons of people while only having to actually talk with a select few. The perfect set-up. Except that it’s not.

As hard as I try—and God is still working on this in my heart and in my life—I see some people who seem to have it all and I feel the ugly sting of jealousy. Like the nasty unassuming sting of a jellyfish, I walk into it never knowing it was there, waiting for me, leaving me with an ugly itch of annoyance with myself and red rash across my feelings completely self-inflicted.

They have the house that I still long to own rather than the rental that I currently find myself in (almost a decade into our marriage with three kids and a dog).

They have the dream job that I’m still waiting to experience.

They get to travel the world while I’m counting down the days for even a staycation alone with my husband.

I see what they want me to see, and likewise if I’m honest, I prefer to post the pictures of my kids all smiling and getting along. The picture that says, look we have it together! When in reality the second after the camera clicks (after fifty-seven failed attempts), the girls are yelling at each other and I’m running in to grab the baby from being caught in the middle while he screams for no apparent reason other than that he must be trying to keep up with his big sisters. I prefer to post the pictures of my husband and I on a date night. I don’t post the status that says we got in an argument and both stormed off annoyed over the little things of life like dishes piled in the sink or the fight over who has to put away the laundry. (guys…if you want to see what I mean on the pile of laundry-plus a little Monday encouragement-check out either my Instagram or my Facebook page. While you’re there, go ahead and like them so you can have first hand access to these wonderful glimpses into my life)

We all play the game. We’re all guilty of presenting a different reality on-line than that of our real life. We don’t always intend for it to play out that way, but it’s what we do. Usually with the best of intentions. No one wants to post a pity party. No one wants to really read about how much our day sucked or the monotonous details that we all face no matter what job title we possess. And I agree! But is there a fine line? Is there a way that we can be real on-line while still maintaining positivism or at the least avoiding the poor me mentality?

In my current book in-process I talk a little about a status update in regards to our identity. In the same way that my online profile reads “married, mom of three”, I want my life to read, “daughter of the King.” I want every word, every action to be a direct reflection of that status.

Jesus said, “By this all will know that you are My disciples, if you have love for one another.” (John 13:34, NKJV)

He also said “Therefore by their fruits you will know them.” (referring to people who would lead them away from the truth) (Matthew 7:20, NKJV)

How we act, how we treat one another, is a clear indication of our status. Are we showing that we are in a committed relationship with God or is it complicated? Are we being a true representation or are we just faking it to try to look good?

One thing that I attempt to portray as both a writer and speaker is an underlying foundation of authenticity. I want to be real with you and dig in with you, but I don’t want you to ever get the idea that I think that I have it all together. My life is blessed, but certainly not perfect. I attempt to be honest about what I know and what I am still learning and growing, because, let’s be honest, we’re all still learning and growing in our own ways in our own areas. I don’t claim to be a guru or an expert. I do claim to have studied and listened to God’s leading, believing that He equips me with the wisdom and knowledge to teach and to lead others in His truths, as He leads. I know what I know and I don’t know what I don’t know. But likewise, I believe that God gives this wisdom and truth to all who ask. I’m not any more or less special than the next person. I am simply claiming my status as God’s daughter and standing on the blessings that come with that.


***in the coming months/year/what-have-you you might see this actually as a part of my up-coming book. If you like what you’ve read, please be sure to sign up for my email list for fun commentary on life in general and to stay up to date on the latest information and possible giveaways.***

One Response to “Status Update

  • Kyla
    1 year ago

    Love this! Thanks for being real 🙂